Follow these tips on flirting at the gym so you’ll know how to flirt the right way! Read on to find out more.
In this article:
- What You Should Know About Flirting at the Gym
- Lead by Example
- Make Eye Contact and Smile
- Offer Your Services
- Attend Classes
- Act Stupid
- Work Out at Your Local Gym
- Take Care of Yourself
- Go Beyond Physical Appearance
- Look Good
- Don’t Talk a Lot
- Stop Being a Creep
Make Flirting at the Gym Work for You
What You Should Know About Flirting at the Gym
- Don’t leave weights on the racks.
- Don’t leave your sweat or disgusting towels on machines.
- For god’s sake, do not act like a predator waiting for your prey.
This doesn’t mean flirting at the gym is forbidden. There are just some things you have to keep in mind to flirt the right way.
1. Lead by Example
Here’s an interesting fact: no one is impressed when you force yourself on them. If you think you’re hot and have a ripped body, don’t flaunt it in front of someone to get their attention.
Instead, mind your own business, work out like a normal guy, and focus only on what you’re doing in the gym.
The more you show humility and non-attachment to other people’s reactions, the more attention you’ll get. It kind of works in reverse of what you think, but it’s the absolute truth.
The bottom line is you will get recognized for what you do as long as you leave your ego behind. If you’re hot or awesome, the opposite sex will recognize it when you act natural.
This is the first tip you should keep in mind to up your flirting game.
2. Make Eye Contact and Smile
The last thing a woman wants is for guys to gawk at her and hover around like vultures when she’s trying to work out. It’s uncomfortable, unprofessional, and it looks creepy.
Men can be different—they often like attention, but women at the gym rarely do this. When they do, it’s almost always more discreet.
If you’re up for a little flirting at the gym, the correct thing to do is to walk past someone, make eye contact, smile, and say a friendly “hello.” That’s it.
Keep walking and go about your business. You just broke ground and laid a very nice foundation. He or she won’t feel threatened, and you have a baseline of acquaintance to work from the next time you see them.
Plus, if they’re expecting you to say more and you don’t, they’ll be wondering why you didn’t.
You piqued their interest, and you now have the upper hand. And this, my friend, is how to flirt the manly way.
3. Offer Your Services
If you see a woman struggling to lift a weight or staring at a machine she seems to be having difficulty figuring out, offer your help. You don’t want her to get hurt or be frustrated.
Remember, the gym should be a place of peace and harmony. Be polite, be kind, and always smile.
Once you’ve helped her out, strike up a leisurely conversation. It’s obvious she doesn’t have much experience, so you have a starting point right there.
Ask her when she started training, what she’s looking to do, and so on—friendly, non-threatening questions.
The best-case scenario is she may want to work out with you regularly to learn more about getting fit and ensure she’s using good form.
You may also want to talk supplements with her, like fat-loss supplements or those that will boost her energy. It’s a really good conversation starter, and one she will probably ask you about for any question she has.
Boom! You now have a training partner—and an automatic “in” to take the flirting to the next level.
Ladies, your situation is a bit easier. If you are attracted to a guy, simply walk up and be polite in asking for a spot, or advice on how to use a machine.
If he’s single, the work will be done, and he’ll definitely move forward. That’s just the way to flirt with a guy at the gym, ladies.
4. Attend Classes
This one particularly pertains to guys. You don’t have to look hard to find classes at gyms:
- Interval training
- Cardio pump
- And so on!
What is Pilates? It is a type of exercise that focuses on core strength, control, balance, and flexibility.
The ratios in these classes are often stacked in favor of men—meaning they’re outnumbered. This spells good news for you, guys!
Women don’t have such a good ratio to work with, but you can still use the same techniques.
Choose a gym class you find interesting and set up shop next to someone you fancy. Chances are, you won’t have to do a thing and can just let nature take its course.
There’s a unifying factor in classes, and people start talking during and afterward.
Throw a look in their direction every now and then. At the end of class, bring up how hard certain exercises were for you (even if they weren’t).
You’ll have a foundation to work from. Each time you come back, you can keep expanding on your conversations.
5. Act Stupid
This means swallowing your pride. If you’re interested in flirting in the gym, you really need to make the sacrifice.
Find someone you’re interested in who is working out nearby. Walk up and nonchalantly ask them what they’re doing, or just flat out ask them for help with what you’re doing.
Even if you know exactly what you’re doing, they don’t need to know that. You’re flirting, remember?
Play dumb. That’s how to flirt easily at the gym.
Note: Men and women alike love to look important and show off their skills. Use this to your advantage.
6. Work Out at Your Local Gym
One of the underrated flirting tips for workout fans who wish to date and flirt is signing up at their local gyms.
Your local gym is a good place to meet a potential partner or friend for a lot of reasons. One, you are more likely to bump into each other again outside the workout area.
Second, you give the other person fewer excuses to say no to a coffee treat or an outdoor jog during weekends.
Last, there’s a good chance you’re already acquaintances or have met at some point. All you need is to do then is reconnect!
7. Take Care of Yourself
All these ideas on flirting at the gym are useless if you cannot keep up with the momentum because you’re sick or, worse, suffer from an injury. It can mean downtime lasting a few weeks or even longer!
Eat healthy meals and follow the correct form and posture for your workouts. Don’t overstrain and give yourself some time to recover and rest every week.
8. Go Beyond Physical Appearance
Remember those pickup lines you probably learned from friends or at bars? Forget them, really.
If you want to break the ice and start a conversation, be natural. In fact, go beyond the other person’s physical looks.
For example, compliment women on what they’re wearing (just don’t be sexist). If they had a good workout, congratulate them as well.
Let’s face it, in the back of our minds, we want people to notice us. A short “You did great back there!” can go a long way in making a nice impression.
9. Look Good
Beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, but it’s also a universal truth that people like nice things—and humans.
Flirting at the gym, therefore, means looking your best. Girls, make sure you wear the right sports bras, as they can help define your shape better.
Boys, if you tend to get all sweaty after lifting heavy weights, you might want to take a break in the locker room. Get that towel and wipe yourself off to avoid looking greasy.
10. Don’t Talk a Lot
When they’re trying to be flirty, a lot of people tend to talk—a lot. It could be they want to lift themselves up or come off as someone smart or intellectual.
A lot of times this technique doesn’t work. Nobody wants to be around someone who dominates conversations all the time!
If you’re a gym rat who is getting all flirty with one of your workout buddies, remember the golden rule: don’t talk too much.
Perhaps you know more about fitness and free weights than anybody else, but flirting at the gym also means give-and-take communication.
Share some information, but allow the other person to ask questions or voice out what they know.
11. Stop Being a Creep
There’s a stark difference between being a stalker and a flirt. Don’t stare at someone for prolonged periods of time.
Don’t make the crucial mistake of following a cute girl or boy into the weight room, treadmill, or squat rack. Most of all, don’t hang out in a locker room or area where you don’t belong!
Otherwise, you won’t get a date or even a friend from doing these. You’ll probably receive a restraining order, a ban from the gym, or a visit from the police instead.
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With these tips on how to flirt at the gym, you now have some solid information to shore up your flirting skills. Go test these tips out and see how you’ll do.
Be sure not to come on too strong and don’t let your ego take control. When you keep in mind these dos and don’ts when flirting at the gym, you’ll gain more than muscles—you may even give yourself a date.
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Editor’s Note: This article was originally published on February 16, 2017, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.